whose wedding is it, anyway?
Let's bring it back to basics, here. (Woah, a blog where I jump right into things instead of giving little weird jokes in the beginning? Serious business.)
I've been photographing weddings for a hot minute. Not a New York minute. A hot minute...which, apparently, is now defined as "a long time".
Every wedding is different. Even if ten weddings have burlap runners and calligraphy and peonies (I love all of those things shamelessly), they're still different. But besides having those things in common, they also share another trait: someone, somewhere, forgets who this wedding is about.
There are two people the wedding day is about, and for: you and yours.
Not your mom. Not their mom. Not your best friend or Aunt Sue or anyone at all. It is for you, and the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.
If you want to run away and elope? If you want a tiny wedding? If you want a giant wedding? If you want to wear jeans, color your hair, wear Nike's? Do. It.
"But Cortnie...you're not married." No. I am not. But I have seen a lot of things, and so I think I'm in a position to offer some advice here.
- If you have someone close to you who is a little on the bossy side, don't be afraid to say "Hey, I love you and respect you and you are so wonderful. But this is my day with the person I love and if we want this a certain way, that's how it has got to be." If they don't react well to that...think about it. If someone who loves you does not react well to you wanting your own wedding to be a certain way that is not their own way, they need a reality check.
- If you're a little nervous someone is going to start drama day-of, hire a planner. Hire someone to put out your fires because when you're knee-deep in hair and makeup and your MOH is in the corner fussing about the table arrangements, you won't have the time or energy to deal with it.
- If you feel like your wedding isn't going to be "pinterest worthy" and that bums you out, take a deep breath and realize that it is okay. Pinterest isn't always real. It's a great resource for ideas, but a lot of the things you'll see on that site are heavily styled and might not even be real. Consider it the runway of your wedding planning - lots of over-the-top ideas, but you're not going to replicate it. Be inspired. Don't be deflated.
- If you want to do something, do it. If you don't want to do something, don't.
It's that simple. It's YOUR day, yours and the person's you're marrying. At the end of the day, you'll be married and isn't that really the point?